During college, one of my best friends and former clients, Justin, said something that has stuck with me over the years.
“I don’t want to be happy. I just want to be content.”
Recently, while reading through Mark Manson’s newest book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, he wrote about pain and why people today seem to be running from pain and suffering.
We actively avoid it. Looking only for those moments of happiness and any reason we can avoid feeling our emotions.
But Mark asks a great question: “what are you willing to struggle for?”
Getting in shape, bettering our health, pursuing our dreams, starting a business it all seems so exciting and we can envision how the result. It’s easy to imagine the happiness we’d feel waking up and looking great naked in the mirror or with a few more zeroes in our bank accounts.
But, are you willing to go through the pain to get that? Or are you just looking for those dopamine hits that make you feel happy?
Are you chasing contentment or happiness?
What are you willing to struggle for?
This is what I explore in this episode. I take some passages from Mark’s book and I examine areas of my life where I wasn’t willing to struggle. Where all I wanted was happiness without the pain.
Contentment doesn’t come without some contention. Happiness comes haphazardly.
In this episode I discuss:
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
- Falling into a briar patch
- Carolina Blue Dream
- Chris Pratt Rags to Riches
- Wanting stuff
- Struggles determine our success
- Pain is necessary
- Falling in love with the process