The young 24-year-old kid in this photo was stuck in a fixed mindset.  I felt that I needed to prove, in numerous different ways, that I was good enough, smart enough, and doggone it, I wanted people to like me!  I remember thinking that I could never do things or accomplish certain goals.  I thought I was predetermined to be the “fuck up” for the rest of my life.  Plans were hatched but in the back of my mind, I knew they were only empty words.  That little voice climbed in and said, “you aren’t going to do this, and you know it so stay here.”  I had a “never can” or “never could” mentality.

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